Have you ever thought of intense quick relationships that were once in your life? The friend enters and vanishes into your life like a shooting star. The thoughts that can creep in are — “things aren’t the way they used to be”, “was it something I did?” It’s easy to get sentimental over the person or even taking it personally.

A better way to frame it is — maybe that person was in your life for a brief moment when you really needed it. Maybe in most situations they were meant to guide us or meant to be a brief partner in our journey and give us the confidence to press on. A handful of people come to mind — they were angels that I needed at one time.

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I recently got acquainted with the idea of feeling a glow after an encounter with someone or an experience. Sometimes when you have a great connected conversation with someone you love — a certain glow can follow you for days. Your heart literally feels warm. The same goes with having a unique connected experience. The same goes for when you do a workout — where you feel the uplift in your body and your muscles are alive. I want glow.

The sibling to the glow is the hangover. I am sure that the same rings true when we encounter a negative person or experience.

The after effects — they linger.

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I listened to the Tim Ferris interview with George Mumford who has been a Mindfulness Coach to the likes of Bulls players (Michael Jordan). Mumford spoke about how when faced with adversity or challenge it is important to deploy the 4 A’s. Is there a way to create space between stimulus and response? In moments of crisis — these are opportunities for latent abilities to express themselves. We must try to slow things down and see the opportunity.

  1. Awareness
  2. Acceptance
  3. (Compassionate) Action
  4. Assessment

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Today, I received some blood work results from last Monday 3/22 from my doctor — the message was date stamped 3/9. Today, I bought some vegetables at the store with a “packed on 3/25” (tomorrow’s date). Today, I traveled in time.

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As I get older, I realize just how challenging it is to live a good life and be a good human. We constantly have to read between the lines and figure out what is worthy of energy consumption or mental space. I really appreciate this Greek Philosopher’s quote: “No man ever steps into the same river twice and he’s not the same man.”

How do we temper our emotions and make good steady decisions? How much should we trust our gut? How much should I worry about the competition?When we encounter a challenge how much do we talk about it to process it and when do we stop talking so we don’t get stuck? What do I know and more importantly what do I not know? Should I be the wind or go with the wind?

Answer: “It depends”.

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